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Is Porn the Mother of All Ruins in Teenage Relationships?

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Red Flags in Relationships

The dating world can be extremely exciting, however it can also be daunting and a lot of work. More than in any other realm, we would be wise to use our intuition and our observing self. If we don’t, we risk ending up one of the many couples who separate, end in divorce or even just in loveless marriages.
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How to Handle Relationships After Divorce

When you’ve spent the last decade or more with a ring on your fourth finger, you’re almost a novice to the dating scene. Certainly, if your first song was by Madonna or Sinéad O’Connor — or The Carpenters, blind dates were set-ups by well-meaning friends and not the result of matching swipe rights.

There’s plenty of advice to be found on how to write the perfect profile, choose the most engaging photos, and meet the first few times in a well-lit Starbucks!

But, what about your first venture into the land of relationships?

Conventional wisdom – and the advice of most therapists – suggests dipping your toes into the pool for a while before you head for anything serious. You’re probably healing from the breakup – and likely vulnerable, no matter if your name was on the plaintiff or the respondent side on the divorce papers.

If you were in a dysfunctional marriage or your spouse was involved with someone else, your self-esteem may need some rebuilding before you move into the next coupling.

We’ve all met those who seem uncomfortable on their own. In my experience, a key lesson post-divorce is learning how to be single. Perhaps you’ve slid into this shape-shifting space where your identity rests as someone’s wife and mother. Men can experience this, as well, but culturally, this seems to be occur more frequently with women.

Now’s the time to explore new interests. Maybe you’re returning to the work force or searching for a new career path. You may want to focus on stocking your social circle with other singles.

Advice aside, a fair number of those new to the dating market will end up in a relationship early on.

What can you do to ensure you’re not making the same mistakes?

Launching into a new relationship before you’re ready may leave you vulnerable to partners who prey on those who aren’t sure of themselves and who may feel uneasy setting limits. If you’ve been without affection or attention, it’s pretty easy to get romanced by someone who comes on strong.

You’ll no doubt come across a fair number of potential daters online who romance with words, promising exotic dates or vacations before you’ve met in person. If the only romance you’ve experienced in the past decades is through a novel or The Bachelor, you’ll be primed for the bite.

Remember, pushing you to be exclusive too soon or begging to meet your kids before the second or third date are red flags for abusive behavior. So is isolating you from your friends and family. The partner who wants you to spend all your time with him or her and tell you there’s nobody who cares about you more deeply is the same one who may turn against you once you’ve been swooped.

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, author of Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, and Love and War in Intimate Relationships, suggests bringing a potential mate before friends and family. Ask their honest opinions. “You’ve watched us together. Do you you think this person is a good match for me?”

When we are at our most insecure, worried about being alone, we’re more apt to make choices that might not serve us. Lacking the common thread of mutual friends, we may not be able to know if this person would be a good choice for a relationship.

Dating can be fun. Look at the process as a way to meet new people – and to reacquaint yourself with the skills you’ll need to figure out who would be a good fit. Value your life as an individual and realize a partner, should you meet one, should complement and not replace the life you already have.

And as Dr. Tatkin says:

Thankfully, relationships aren’t like baseball, where it’s three strikes and you’re out. The universe keeps pitching us new opportunities to redo, repair, and reinvent ourselves with another person.

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6 Things No One Tells You About Long-Distance Relationships

The story never gets old: A girl meets a boy. They fall head over heels in love to realize later on one is bound to leave somewhere far.

My story, however, comes with a little twist. I traveled nearly 6,000 miles from home to get lost in thick Indonesian jungles with a person living in my hometown. Yet, moving to France in just a month after we return from the trip.

While I desperately wished to quit my job, pack my bags I couldn’t. Saying immediate good-bye forever at that point would have torn my heart apart as well. So I opted for that type of relationships I never believed could work — long-distance relationship (LDR).

Two years fast-forward, we are still together. We are still in love and I now have two homes in two different countries where I spend equal amount of time.

There’s one important most thing I need to tell you upfront: Long-distance relationships suck. You may eventually discover some positive aspects, but on your “bad days” you will curse each mile separating you.

Yet, if you ask me, “Is it actually worth to get into LDR?

Absolutely. Every. Single. (Pun intended). Minute.

If you found yourself at the point when you need to decide whether love on the distance is possible for you, here are some important things I have learned the hard way.

1. You got a free ticket for an emotional non-stop roller-coaster ride.

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I have always thought of myself as a big girl who doesn’t cry. The first month of LDR turned me into a total weepie.

It’s not that we weren’t doing “good”. It’s just due to complete novelty of the situation; I have experienced a vast variety of feelings from deep, depressive sadness to anger, joy, anxiety, enthusiasm and everything in between.

If you think it gets better in time, sorry, it doesn’t.

You will still have “good days” when you do your daily chores, feel excited about something, have fun times with friends. And there would be bad days. Terribly wrong days full of self-pity, heart-wrenching loneliness and drilling pain.

When you are together, your joy and happiness can’t be tamed. When you are apart, your sadness grows to the size of your personal universe.

2. You will become really creative in filling up your time.

To avoid the sadness consuming me, I started to get creative with keeping my brains occupied most of the day. I took language classes, learnt to cook a few dozens of new dishes, started biking regularly into the countryside, worked long hours, started a blog, revived some long-forgotten friendships, de-cluttered my flat, gave away my clothes and did some charity projects.

My partner started learning to play the guitar, learned to skate, became a pro-chess player, continued to study another language and make new friends and useful professional connections in his new home country.

Now you get the point, you will have a lot of “waiting” time you will need to productively waste unless you don’t want to be a sad girl all the time.

3. You will have a lot of tough choices to make.

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Let’s start with some relatively simple questions both of you will need to answer honestly: “Where is this all heading?” and “What’s next?”; “How do you see our future together?” and “How can we close the distance?”

Add to the above developing the ultimate visiting schedule, shared expenses and financial planning, plus questions from all sort of random folks asking when/why don’t you get married or dump him.

4. Your friends’ may not be as supportive as you think.

If they are not in LDR as well, they won’t get all of your woes and complains 75 percent of the times. They will sound as sympathetic and compassionate as they can, but deep down inside you know they don’t understand your feelings.

Some would be much worse, asking seemingly hilarious questions like: “Does your boyfriend even exist?”, “How do you cope with the physical aspect of being in relationships?” and “Maybe you should date someone else?”.

Right. And than a cat becomes a dog.

5. In time, you develop an odd feeling of sureness.

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Your relationships are definitely not about sex. You are rather friends without benefits when you are not together. If that’s not true love, why would each if you bother to sustain this whole thing?

You are very honest with your partner and can share anything in person or online — fears, dreams, hopes, pain, insecurities. Suddenly, “jealousy” becomes an empty word for you as you grow a thousand per cent sure in your partner.

6. You will make it till the end.

I have never believed long-distance relationships work. I was proved wrong.

You will make it through. You can be a happy couple even if you don’t share one zip code.

If it is your person, you will survive everything together and make it through all the future couple struggles and life difficulties.

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How Sex Isn’t The Only Form of Infidelity in Relationships These Days

It’s 5:30 am, and your alarm goes off. You open your eyes, and your mind starts racing. Meetings, conference calls and project deadlines all loom.

Why is there always so much to do and never enough time to get it done?

You grab your phone and scroll through your notifications as you walk into the shower, half awake.

Knowing she’s not up, you send her a text message: “Good morning, baby. I hope you have a wonderful day.”

This text serves as two reminders: You want her to know she’s the first thing on your mind. And, more importantly, she needs to realize that, regardless of how stressful or busy your days are, she’s the priority.

It sounds so perfect, but that’s not reality.

Instead, you’ll log into Instagram or Facebook, nosing into everyone else’s life, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll send that text to your woman on the way to work.

Relationships these days lack direction. People “date,” but what the hell does that even mean anymore? Is it hanging out twice a month? Texting all day? Kissing here and there?

Something is missing. What’s causing relationships to falter at the rate they are?

Relationships thrive on communication. Our most intimate emotions are reserved for the person we love, so how is it acceptable to never show them?

We’ve accepted so many unacceptable things: sitting at the dinner table with our phones out, arguing over text, publishing every minute of our lives on social media.

Do you know what trumps all that? That society has accepted relationships in which we are being cheated on every day.

When you think of cheating in the traditional sense, having sex with another person comes to mind.

It’s an intimate situation in which the person you love is connecting with another while you are going about your life, loving and caring for said person.

Once you find out, all trust is lost. But think about the concept for a minute.

Webster’s Dictionary defines cheating as the deprivation of “something valuable by the use of deceit or fraud.”

Sure, sex is cheating and may be the most hurtful case, but have you ever stopped to think you’re being cheated out of your relationship every day?

We experience a lack of communication, attention, passion, intimacy and even lack of love. Why are we okay with this and all the communication shortcuts that have become so common?

This type of cheating causes much more damage than that of any sexual affair.

You’ve given your heart to someone and love him or her with every bone in your body, but you have to beg for his or her attention.

You sit back and watch this person post status updates about useless things, or post pictures just so people can comment.

You need to take a minute to tell her she’s beautiful. Call her after work to say, “Get dressed in 30 minutes. I’m picking you up and taking you somewhere special.”

Make an effort. Old-fashioned love needs to make another round.

The days of holding hands, opening the car door, taking her out “just because,” sending her flowers just to get a smile and leaving her notes on her car should never be gone.

We have to be children when it comes to love.

We have to be vulnerable and free. That can’t happen when we’re preoccupied with the details of everyone else’s lives.

Focus on each other. When it’s all said and done, that’s all you really have.

Appreciate her, and show her how much she means to you. But, most importantly, put your phone down, and dial into what’s in front of you.

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What I Wish I Could Tell My 20-Year-Old Self About Relationships

By Rosalind Sedacca for DivorcedMoms.com

Relationships can be the most challenging aspect of life. Few of us get the insights and savvy advice we wish we had embraced when we were young and starting along the relationship path. I’ve made many partner mistakes in my past, one of which led to a divorce. Today, I’m happily remarried. I’m also a busy dating & relationship coach and I have many suggestions that I wish I had known back when I was twenty years old. So here’s my list based on wisdom I’ve learned through personal experience and coaching dozens of clients.

1. Don’t bring unresolved baggage from previous relationships into your present relationship. And don’t find a partner who does that either. Identify your feelings of anger, hurt, pain, guilt and disillusionment and accept these feelings as lessons learned. It then becomes easier to move on. You can’t have a successful relationship when carrying old baggage from the past.

2. Avoid “fairy-tale” thinking. It’s not your partner’s job to fix you or make you happy. It is your responsibility to be all you can be when you enter a relationship. Dependency and neediness are not attractive qualities, so don’t assume anyone can meet all your needs or desires.

3. The basis for a healthy relationship is friendship. This level of comfort translates into a solid foundation for love to blossom and intimacy to develop. Strive for friendship first before you open the door to the physical and emotional closeness that is so essential to a solid partnership.

4. Be sure your expectations are realistic. Are your demands about weight, age, height, financial success and other factors limiting your ability to find the right partner who will love and appreciate you? You must be flexible, objective and fair in your expectations, so you don’t set yourself up for pain and disappointment.

5. Be able to communicate effectively by encouraging open, honest dialogues. Be attuned to your nonverbal cues and body language that can trigger messages and unconscious signals to your partner. Be alert regarding his nonverbal cues as well. We say more with expressions, voice tone and gestures than we ever realize.

6. Notice any uncomfortable behaviors that would be a sign of impending abuse. Jealously, quick attachment, mood swings, anger issues, verbal threats or distorted accusations are the red flags that spell caution. Address these issues directly and early on. Don’t let disrespectful or abusive behavior become part of your comfort zone.

7. Don’t sacrifice yourself for the sake of your partner. It’s important to be flexible whenever possible, while still maintaining the values, integrity and standards that are important to you. You want a partner who is happy to do the same and values you for who you are!

8. Trust your intuition, which is vital to your well-being. This internal antenna continually sends you messages and if anything or anyone makes you feel uneasy, don’t ignore it.

9. Successful relationships are built on mutual respect. Therefore, the more you focus on negative aspects of your partner, the more you will deny yourself the positive, attractive aspects you noticed when you first started dating.

10. Maintain your individual interests, including friends, activities and professional goals. You must be able to orchestrate your life and not feel smothered by any man or relationship. Don’t be clingy or choose someone who controls or clings to you. You’ll regret it!

Rosalind Sedacca, CCT is a Dating & Relationship Coach as well as co-author of 99 Things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating After 40, 50 & Yes, 60! and True Love At Last for Women Over 40: Answers You Need for the Relationship You Want! Her Create Your Ideal Relationship Kit and free ebook on Smart Dating Advice for Women Over 40: Answers to Your Most-Asked Questions are available at www.womendatingafter40.com.

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5 Positive Lessons My Divorce Taught Me for Future Relationships

I recently had lunch with a freshly-divorced friend. We hadn’t spoken in awhile, so throughout the meal I got the typical rundown of Things-That-Went-Wrong, Qualities-My-Next-Partner-Must-Have (typically, everything his ex-wife was NOT) and How-Could-I-Have-Been-So-Blind realizations. I understood; I’ve certainly been in that place, and know many divorced friends who’ve similarly dealt with these same issues. Change is hard, divorce is a major transition and emotions are not always logical.

With the benefit of time on my side, however, the lessons I learned in my marriage and subsequent divorce are far more positive. I recently wrote about how there’s no such thing as a ‘failed marriage‘; you’ve either worked things through or learned a lesson. Here are 5 positive lessons I took from my own divorce and successfully applied to post-divorce relationships.

How to speak my truth
Throughout years of my marriage I hesitated to speak my truth. While my intentions were honorable — I wanted to keep the peace, I didn’t want to introduce conflict, I was trying so hard to be a “good wife” — my execution came up short because I was not being authentic with myself or my spouse. By hiding my truth, trying to ignore hurt feelings, “sucking it up,” I was doing myself and my ex-husband a great disservice. While nothing could have patched the holes my marriage, I have taken that lesson into subsequent relationships and done my best to communicate in a genuine, honest and authentic manner.

How difficult long-term relationships can be, sometimes
I truly believe people’s intentions are good when they tell you, pre-marriage, how wonderful life will be with your new spouse. The truth, however, can be a little different. Marriage can be really wonderful, and with enough hard work the good outweighs the bad. But marriage also includes some dark times when you question your decision, wonder if it has to be so hard, and feel jealous of your other married friends who seem to have their sh*t together. Every long-term relationship has struggles and rough spots. The relationships that are worth it will endure the rough spots and focus on the silver linings. The grass is greener where you water it.

The answer to my relationship problems often resides in me
When things get rough and I’m frustrated with my partner’s behavior, it’s easy for me to focus on what he needs to fix or change. It’s not as easy to focus on myself, my own words and actions, and how they’re, similarly, lacking. Divorce has taught me to focus on what I can do to ease my own frustration when things slip sideways. When my partner is crabby and stressed out he tends to lash out… but it’s amazing how quickly his attitude changes when he has a good meal and some gentle words of support from me. As a result he’s generally kinder and gentler with me. Instead of reacting in frustration and anger, myself, I’ve learned to switch perspective and see the problem from his point of view, then amend my reaction. Similarly, when I’m stressed and lashing out, it’s notable how quickly my anger is diffused when he brings me flowers, takes over dinner prep or simply gives me a hug. If you’re dealing with a difficult time in your relationship, take a moment and look inside to see what you can do to improve things.

I genuinely love being half of a couple, even when it’s hard
No relationship can maintain the terrific, swoony feeling you get in the beginning. At some point life and reality take over and you find yourself folding his socks and huffing because he left the toilet seat up again. But at the end of the day, my solid relationship — even with all of its quirks — is far preferable to not having him in my life. He provides strength, fortitude, humor and security when I can’t find these things on my own. Being half of a partnership means difficulty sometimes, but it also means you have someone in your corner at the end of the day, every day.

Loving someone is a choice
All relationships have their storms along with their rainbows. Long-term successful couples make the choice to love each other, through good and bad, forever. Loving someone is a choice to make your partner a priority, even when s/he’s being grumpy because there’s nothing in the house to eat but individually-wrapped cheese slices and neither of you wants to go to the grocery store. It’s a choice you make, when the world is falling out from under you and you’re on two different planets and it feels like things may never get better (but you know, you have that intrinsic sense of security in knowing that things can get better, that you’re well-matched). Loving someone is a choice, weekly, daily, sometimes hourly, to remember that the person beside you is the person you chose, of your own free will, both in the skin-tingling highs and the dark, drudging lows. Love is a choice to see the best in that person instead of succumbing to viewing their weaknesses through a gritty filter of disappointment. Successful couples are successful because of their commitment to leaning inward instead of away when things get hard.

Though divorce can be terrible and life-altering, if you can shift your perspective a bit, you may learn some invaluable lessons to make moving forward a little easier.

Kasey Ferris is a freelance writer and mother-of-five. She eats too many Oreos and thinks life is much better when you’re laughing. Find her at facebook.com/KaseyFerrisWrites.

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Duality in Relationships

What makes a good girl attracted to a bad boy? She was raised in a safe, protected household. Great parents, and had a wonderful social structure. What went wrong? How did she end up dating a guy that’s the OPPOSITE of everything she was groomed to be? She just didn’t seem like the ‘type’ of girl who would want to be with that ‘type’ of guy. Here’s where the ‘dual’ side begins to take shape.
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Feeling the ‘Rocky’ in Relationships

In 2008, a massive earthquake shook the Chinese province of Sichuan. Measuring 8.0, the quake killed more than 69,000, injured countless more, and left 4.8 million homeless. The Chinese government has spent billions on the region’s recovery, which even now is incomplete.

The immediate devastation in Sichuan was also followed by a dramatic spike in the divorce rate, a phenomenon that captured international attention — and sparked widespread speculation — at the time. Did the deadly earthquake actually cause the jump in marital breakups?

The spike might have been a coincidence, though that’s unlikely. It could also have been that severe emotional and financial stress took a toll on the relationships. That’s certainly plausible. But it might also have been something much more basic. It could be that the turbulence itself — the shaking and crumbling of the physical environment in Sichuan — triggered cognitive and emotional turbulence, undermining personal commitment in the process.

That is the provocative idea that University of Pittsburgh psychological scientist Amanda Forest, with colleagues at the University of Waterloo, has been exploring in a series of studies. Though it sounds a bit wild, the hypothesis has a solid grounding in theory, specifically one called “embodied cognition.” This is the idea that abstract concepts are scaffolded on top of actual physical sensations, beginning with early caregiving experiences. Just as experiencing actual warmth activates feelings of personal warmth, perhaps actual shaking and crumbling can trigger thoughts of personal instability. Indeed, this cognitive link may be the basis of the metaphor “rocky relationships.”

The scientists tested this idea in three experiments, all involving people in committed relationships. In all the studies, only some of the subjects experienced subtle forms of instability in the laboratory — standing on one leg, sitting on a wobbly chair or cushion. While experiencing this instability (or not, in the case of controls), the subjects answered questions about their relationships: How confident are you that your partner and you will be together in six months? In a year? Three years? For a lifetime? How satisfied are you in your romantic relationship? How committed are you? And so forth. Some of the studies required the subjects to write notes to their partners, which were then analyzed by independent raters for signs of affection.

When they crunched the data, all the studies supported the notion of embodied shakiness. As reported in a forthcoming issue of the journal Psychological Science, actual physical instability led people to perceive their relationships as less likely to last. But more important, these perceptions were associated with less satisfaction and less relationship commitment. It’s known that people who experience less satisfaction and commitment are more likely to break up down the road.

Even in the most established relationships — defined in these studies as one and a half years together — people’s perceptions of relationship stability were remarkably malleable, shifting in accord with very subtle physical experiences. What’s more, physical rockiness triggered responses associated with known relationship risks: People who reported romantic instability were more likely to be withdrawn and less affectionate. Since emotional expression is key to satisfying relationships, shifts are not inconsequential.

Why would physical instability trigger such damaging responses? It’s not entirely clear, but it could be the wobbliness makes people uncertain of their own commitment. Or it could be people become more insecure about their partner’s commitment and withdraw as a form of self-protection, distancing themselves to diminish the possible pain of rejection. Or both. Whatever the dynamic, it appears that powerful turbulence, as in Sichuan, can result in both a natural and social disaster.

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Having the Same Taste In Music Isn’t Important In Relationships… Except in These Two HUGE Cases. Agree?

Most of the guys I've dated aren't into the same type of music as me. Sure, here and there we might overlap ("Oh, you like Coldplay? Me too!") but mostly it's like two different worlds….




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Talking About Past Sexual Relationships

Sex is a vital part of a satisfying relationship, so if you feel that you have found the right one and the relationship is getting serious, you both need to be open and truthful when talking about past sexual relationships. Make sure you have given yourselves enough time to get to know each other first before choosing a comfortable and private place where you can have a frank and honest discussion about your past sexual history.
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Online Relationships Vs Offline Relationships: Which Is Better?

This is one of the most common topics of debate and everyone has laid numerous instances to support their arguments. I happen to find this topic extremely interesting and decided to understand the pros and cons of both.
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Rape Happens In Gay Relationships Too

About two years ago I moved in with my boyfriend of three years. We were gross—the kind of couple you hate standing behind in a line. I couldn’t walk down the street without being attached to him in some way. He was my first love, and I’ll never forget or be able to fully explain the feeling of wholeness just walking around with him brought me.
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Five Things That Hold You Back From Moving On In Relationships

The past always seems shinier when we reflect on it, and in many ways this colored version can be a liability as we move forward in our lives. When love ends, it is a tragedy. The broken heart has spawned countless songs, films, books, and television shows for a reason.
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#GlamourDateNight Recap: Is Everyone Just Looking for a Hookup? Or Are Real Dates and Relationships Coming Back In Style?

June 28 was #GlamourDateNight, and many of you (hopefully) went out. Perhaps you're still out. So…how did it go?! The #1 complaint we've heard from women is that they're not even really sure if they're…




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16 Things Only People in Casual Relationships Understand

So … do we kiss good-bye in the morning, or what?
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Discover Mistakes Women Commit That Lead To Strained Relationships

Women these days seem to be at the receiving end of any strained or failed relationships. And they usually turn around to blame the men they once dated in the ill-fated relationship. While in some cases, it might be right to point accusing fingers at the men these women dated, more often than not, it is actually them that cause the problems that eventually lead to the separation with the men in their relationships.
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8 Ways Gay Relationships Are Just Like Everyone Else’s

Someone in every relationship is the blanket-stealer.
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